Like anyone
else, I like being found attractive. When someone says “You’re cute” or “you’re
hot” or anything like that it’s a nice compliment, and a nice self-esteem
boost. Even being told specific things are attractive is nice. Compliments on
my eyes are probably the most common one. But there is one phrase that always
bothers me.
“Trans women/men are hot.” Now, this depends on context of
course. Sometimes it can be a good phrase. It can be used to say “trans people
can be just as hot as anyone else.” But that’s not always the case.
Too often when someone says “trans women are hot” they mean
they have a “thing” for trans women. And the same for trans men. They’re not
saying “trans people can be attractive too” they’re saying “I want a woman with
a penis” “I like men that have a vaj” or in other words they’re saying “I like
how you look, but also want you to have a specific set of genitals.”
But the thing is, we’re not your fetish. We’re not some
special category different from men and women. It’s not “Men, women, and
transgender people.” We are men and
women. We’re people. “Transgender” is just a modifier, another qualifier for
what kind of men and women we are.
Our genitals are not there to be specific to your
attraction. We’re not a category. We are human, we’re people, we’re men and
women, and we’re just like the rest of you.
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